How to Be a Grief Ally (with Aly Bird)
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We are thrilled to welcome Aly Bird to the show. Aly's work focuses on supporting folks in their bereavement and all of the knowledge, expertise, and insight she has gained on this topic has come through her own profound grief experience. In addition to sharing her story and the origins on her book Grief Ally, Courtney and Aly discuss the practical ways one can support a loved one through grief. They get a bit philosophical and discuss the failings of Western conceptualizations around grief and loss and the ways this results in further isolation for those experiencing grief. They explore the Kubler-Ross Five Stages of Grief model and Aly shares her insights about the emotions tied to grief. Aly offers alternatives to the phrase "Let me know what you need", explains the differences between intuitive versus instrumental grief, and highlights the multiple layers of the grief experience. While this may sound, at first, like a tough topic, Aly's lighthearted and straight forward manner bring a surprising amount of levity and humor to this discussion!
About our guest: Since her husband’s untimely death, Aly Bird has poured her heart into helping those who feel helpless during an unexpected crisis. Her extensive study of grief psychology and culture, combined with her own devastating first-hand knowledge, led her to create a roadmap for the courageous and dedicated individuals who are willing to show up for the people they love with unconditional love, empowerment, and reverence. A speaker and workshop leader, Aly shows a clear path to those who have the courage to take on the vital role of being a grief ally.
Recognizing that there must be a change the way our culture handles grief, Aly is committed to building a support and educational network not only for the ones who have experienced an earth-shattering loss, but the people who are often overlooked: the griever’s loved ones and trusted support system. Aiding in her mission, Aly is currently pursuing a graduate degree in counselling psychology, and a career in grief therapy.
Aly Bird is a coach and author with a BA from Carleton University and MSc in Social Planning from the University of Toronto. She is a member of Canadian Counselling and Psychotherapy Association and the Bereavement Ontario Network.
Keeping her life in balance, Aly is passionate about taking long walks with her dog, creating art, and singing at the top of her lungs every time she has the chance.
Learn more at www.alybird.com. Or find her on social media @thealybird.
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